If you are reading this article, then you probably see yourself as smarter than the average guy.
You’ve known that you’re a little different than other guys for a while now.
You probably realised at a young age that you were different.
And you’ve figured out your intelligence gives you an advantage over others.
Smart guys intelligence gives them one type of advantage that is very powerful… YOU’RE USUALLY RIGHT.
Intelligent people get used to being “right”, because they usually ARE
And when you’re RIGHT more often than others, you have a distinct advantage in many situations.
But unfortunately, this powerful brain can actually be WORSE than USELESS when it comes to a key area of life:
WOMEN AND DATING.
Actually its like using the wrong tool for the job. you’re most likely going to make the situation WORSE. Smart guys cant even IMAGINE a situation where his powerful brain could hurt his chances for success
but rest assured, this is one of those situations.
So relax, open your powerful mind, and let me share with you the reasons why smart guys fail with women… and what to do about it.
CHAPTER 1 – BEING RIGHT
What happens when smart guys come across a situation where they’re WRONG?
Well, they walk away… and try find a new situation that plays into their strengths.
Because they know that it wont be long before they are right again.
Or they let the problem destroy them… more on that later.
Being wrong about women and dating has one big problem… YOU CANNOT ESCAPE IT!
There’s no quick “I’m right” around the next corner to make a smart guy feel better.
A smart guy only needs to fail a few times before he sees the pattern… he realises that something is not working.
Solution? Think harder.
But if smart guy gets no success then this problem becomes very frustrating.
Accepting that you’re wrong is VERY hard for a “smart guy”.
Accepting you have NO CLUE WHERE TO EVEN START is even more difficult.
so smart guy comes up with the following conclusion:
THEREFORE IF I CAN’T FIGURE OUT WOMEN AND DATING, THEN THE PROBLEM CANNOT BE SOLVED OR IS NOT WORTH SOLVING.
So our smart guy remains single and confused.
CHAPTER 2 – DUMB CAVEMEN
Smart guys reject ideas from people who they believe are less intelligent than them.
How could a workable solution come from someone dumber than them? Seems ridiculous, right?
Well… let me ask you a question.
If you were stuck in Africa for a year with one companion. Would you choose the smartest guy on the planet
or a caveman with the IQ of 50? …But who grew up being chased by all kinds of African animals that wanted to eat him.
It’s an interesting question.
So learning from someone with practical experience can get better results than thinking your way through the problem and devising your own solution.
So when it comes to women and dating, learning from a guy who has practical experience is the appropriate method. Even if he does have the IQ of a caveman.
So learn from some “dumb” guys… and let them teach you how to get what you REALLY want.
CHAPTER 3 –SOCIAL SKILLS
“Smart guys” just don’t GET IT when it comes to social skills.
It’s as if they have logically reasoned that social skills are for cavemen jerks who play emotional games… and not worth the time it would take to learn them.
In a smart guys “mental model” he is cool because he knows information and theories.
But… Social skills are just that… SKILLS.
They’re not social INFORMATION.
They’re not social THEORIES.
They’re social SKILLS.
And you don’t get them by THINKING about them. You get them by GETTING them.
Excellent social skills are the foundation for good communication with other humans… and if you don’t have good social skills, you dramatically lower your chances for success with women.
CHAPTER 4 – IMAGINARY LIMITATIONS
Smart guy want to go talk to a girl. but then his over active brain starts to calculate how and why he’s going to fail.But if you have thought of a good reason why you’re gonna fail, surly it makes good sense not to do it, right?
I mean, why would you want to do things that are going to fail?
Problem is that smart guys come up with all the reasons why everything WON’T WORK when it comes to women and dating.
They use their amazing brains to imagine all kinds of horrible situations… and then they use those imaginary outcomes to create negative emotions… which ultimately stop them from having success with women and dating.
So smart guys are limiting themselves by over-thinking negative things, which makes them feel bad.
Because smart guys don’t understand what women respond to. Therefore they are working with bad data. Working with bad data all your life leads to CONSISTENT FAILURE.
CHAPTER 5 – ONLY KNOWLEDGE SOLUTIONS PLEASE
So our smart guy runs into a problem… what does he do?
He looks for INFORMATION to help him solve the problem.
MORE INFORMATION is always the answer.
Information is the best friend of the smart guy.
So when a smart guy has a problem with women…
He collects more information and studies harder
So theoretically if there was a situation where collecting more information made things worse…
How would you even know that it was making things worse?
I’m not saying you shouldn’t learn how to be more successful with women and dating.
But if you have a problem thats EMOTIONAL or PHYSICAL, then reading all the books in the world probably isn’t going to help you very much.
You need to get out in the real world and try some stuff!
CHAPTER 6 – LOGIC vs EMOTION
Women don’t feel ATTRACTION for men who make them THINK.
Women feel ATTRACTION for men who make them FEEL.
So what do smart guys do when they meet a women?
He starts a LOGICAL CONVERSATION.
Brainy guys start LOGICAL conversations because that’s what makes them feel comfortable.
But by doing this they are not able to make women feel anything. Then the women gets bored and moves on to find a man that can make her feel something.
CHAPTER 7 – THE UNCOMFORTABLE MOMENT OF CHALLENGE
Intelligent people usually have time to THINK about problems.
Smart guys normally get at least some time to prepare before they show off their “know how” in most situations.
But this is not the case with women…
Smart guys who don’t know what every action step with women are quickly shut down.
Women have a built in radar system used for catching men who “just don’t get it.”
Their radar system has a bunch of subtle but ingenious tests that force men to react. Women then use this information to figure out if a man is in the “gets it” or “doesn’t get it” group
If you fail the test you fall very quickly into the doesn’t get it group. Worst part is that you didn’t even know there was a test or that you are currently failing it.
Complex emotional and communication problems are not a smart guys strengths. The key to getting good with women is being able to deflect all these tests that are being thrown at you.
But before you can deflect these tests you must learn how to communicate on an emotional level. This way you stay longer in the “he gets it” group and now you can stay relaxed around women as you practice your social skills.
CHAPTER 8 – BEING NICE THE SMART WAY
Ok so you are going on a date with a super sexy women.
Intelligent guys think that its SMART to find out her favourite flowers and bring them on the first date.
Well girls like flowers, so if you take a girl flowers she will like you more… right?
Anyone can suck up to her and kiss her ass… and she knows it.
Worst of all every guy who “doesn’t get it” does this stuff.
So she quickly puts you into the “doesn’t get it” group
Because the flowers are interpreted as trying to manipulate her. And the smart guy has been thinking about this a lot before the date. Which is quite creepy.
CHAPTER 9 – ALWAYS THE EXPERT
Smart guys always want others to see them as intelligent, therefore they always try be the expert at whatever they do.
Have you ever met a smart guy who always needed to be “right”?
Even if it the middle of a conversation they realised that they are wrong.
This is because intelligent guys don’t like to be “beginners” at ANYTHING.
They get emotional rewards for being the expert.
The idea of screwing up in real time while others are watching is terrifying to a smart guy.
But being a beginner at something requires a smart guy to be ok with screwing up and making mistakes even if it means making a fool out of themselves in order to learn.
The risk of embarrassment and failure is too high… but ironically that means that they will remain a failure with women and dating.
What they fail to realise is that It’s OK to be a beginner. Its ok to fail. We all fail at things all the time.
CHAPTER 10 – REPELLED BY FEAR AND EMOTIONS
A Smart guys super POWER is his MIND.
But his weakness is often his emotions. Fear makes them freeze in their tracks
Smart guys are not experts at emotional problems so they repress them or just run away.
Many smart men would rather die than admit that they don’t know how to deal with their emotions.
even more terrifying is the prospect of asking for help.
Most men spend years like this.
I know what it’s like.
But here is the REALITY… smart guys CAN master emotions.
It just takes time and effort.
IF you are a smart guy then do yourself a favour… take the time and effort to master this skill.
And if you are worried about what people think… will that really matter after you are good at it?
What matters is YOU! …doing the things that you need to do, for YOU.
SOMETHING TELLS ME THAT YOU KNOW WHAT I’M TALKING ABOUT.