What If She’s Out With A Guy?
Hi, guys. Sky here from Charm Formula. Today, I’m here to discuss, “Competition from other man and how to handle it.” Most guys feel like they’re in this massive competition with other guys, and that there is this like war on — going on between all the men and they’re all like, you know, fighting over these women. It’s not really like that. I’ll explain to you why in this video. All right, so like most guys are terrified of like other dudes at like a club, or a bar or, you know, wherever. They’re kind of scared for a very good reason, because they’ve never really dealt with these things before. They’re never really had to deal with other men in this sort of social context. So, other man seem very scary to them. That’s kind of natural. And if you’re one of those guys, then don’t worry it’s a completely natural process. But over time you’re kind of get used to, you know, going out, and being around other guys and then it slowly gets easier. What you guys really need to understand is that your fear and anxiety about these other guys is primarily in your own head. You don’t have to be terrified of these guys, and the best way of experiencing
that, if you go to a club or a bar, practice just going up to groups of guys and try to find like common interest for with them. Go and try to have a conversation with those group of guys. If there are no women there, then it should be a lot easier, right? So, when girls go out, they’re primarily hang out with friends, family, gay men, you need to know this; these are the principal people that they’re hanging out with. Most guys think that like every girl that is out is with her boyfriend, absolutely not true. So, the best thing to do if you’re going to go over to a group of girls that have guys with them is to go into the group and try to make friends with the guys. Initially, not paying any attention to the girls, and you’re just talking shit to the guys about whatever, whatever that they seem to be interested in. Then, the girls are going to be like “Oh, the dudes are just talking shit.” And then they’re going to ignore you and pretend like you’re not there until you start talking to them. So, a great thing to do is actually just to go friend all the guys. And then you land up finding out that guys are actually like your biggest allies. You go in, you start speaking to them, and then all of a sudden, they’re saying, “Oh, she is single. Go for it bro.” You have probably never experienced this. But once you’re going out enough, once you’re getting out there
enough, once you’ve been throwing yourself out enough with these different groups of people, you will eventually figure out that the guys in these groups they’re not as scary as you think they are. But very important, you have to be friends with them. You have to be cool and hang out with them and not ignore them. If you ignore them, they’re going to turn into the biggest douchebags in the universe. But if you’re friends with them, they’re going to help you. So, why are you going to be afraid of guys that are going
to help you? All right, so I’m going to make friends with guys. But then, you’re maybe friends with them and you’re discussing something like football, or cricket or something like that, and all of a sudden, “Hey, wait a minute, I can ask him who’s dating who in the group?” And you just ask him, say, “Hey man, so what’s the deal here with all the people like, you know, is there a love triangle going on?” What’s happening, right? And then he’ll be like “All right, so she is dating him. She is single. She is single. He just broke up with his girlfriend and he’s all heartbroken.” And then like, and you, where is your girlfriend,
right? And he’s like “Oh, I don’t have any girlfriend?” Why dude? Why don’t have a friend? You should have a girlfriend. Look at you man, you’re fucking handsome motherfucker. If you’re behaving like this with guys, they’re going to give you a lot of props, right? They’re going to be like, “You’re fucking cool man, yeah. Oh, you like my friend? Awesome, that’s great. You’re a cool guy. I can see myself hanging out with you.” And if they — if they feel that, then the girls are going to feel more comfortable too. So, I hope you guys took a little something away from this supposed, “Competition” that men are in. Check out the
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